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Often people with self-hatred, shame or self-criticism get “caught up” in a thought process that includes a fair amount of self-attacking. This thought process can include arguments with oneself, reasons a person should not be the way he/ she is, … Continue reading
How did this class help you? Here is the feedback from four parents who took the Spring 2015 class: “To try and react better..To try and anticipate my daughter’s behavior triggers..try to find out what is causing the extremes … Continue reading
Here are some steps to figuring out your mood- and what to do if, indeed, you want to change it. Our moods- or our feelings- can be extremely important in helping us understand ourselves, organize our behavior, know what matters, … Continue reading
Sometimes, if you look closely at what actually feel, you won’t like what’s there. Sometimes it’s just too much. Here are some tips on what to do when you get up close and personal with your elephant, and this may … Continue reading
Four brief ways in which mindfulness can actually be used to help you cope: Practical applications of being mindful.
Here are a few simple ways in which learning and using mindfulness can help people. Quiet the mind. A simple mindful activity such as focusing on the breath for a few minutes can help people slow down racing thoughts, lower … Continue reading
Airplane emotions Click on the link above to watch a two minute video clip on how your emotions are like paper airplanes- and what messages might be flying by.
Traumatic experiences have a tendency to shake us to the very core, calling into question our beliefs about humanity, safety, influence, power, control, and faith. When traumatic things happen, our vulnerabilities are exposed. We may feel raw, defenseless, or powerless. … Continue reading
First, acknowledge what you cannot control. When others do things that are destructive, hurtful, irritating, annoying, or have painful consequences, the acknowledgement itself is simply a way in which you are looking and seeing what is actually going on. Not … Continue reading
When we desire or want things that other people aren’t able to give us, one option is to blame ourselves for wanting or desiring it in the first place. This can be especially true for people who feel misunderstood or … Continue reading
Mindfulness involves an ability to “get in touch” and be aware of experiences that are both going on inside (ie, feelings) and the outside. In DBT, the ability to validate means not dismissing or attacking oneself. Self-validating is about paying … Continue reading