Tag Archives: Understanding emotion

Three mindfulness exercises to use right now to quiet your mind and focus your attention

One of the reasons mindfulness is used is to get yourself calm. If you are a person with a lot of anxiety, your anxiety might get in your way of handling problems, thinking clearly, or addressing something with your full … Continue reading

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When individual therapy with adolescents doesn’t work

Individual outpatient therapy with adolescents can sometimes be limited in that 1) It can fall into Question and Answer sessions-losing the spontaneity and flow of a helpful interaction 2) Adolescents have shorter attention spans, and keeping them focused on painful … Continue reading

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Is someone you love in extreme emotional distress?

Did you miss the teleseminar in February on How to Be Around People in Extreme Emotional Distress?  If so, make sure you sign up for my mailing list so you can be alerted to upcoming classes for April, May, and … Continue reading

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10 Reasons why you need The Emotional Extremist’s Guide to Handling Cartoon Elephants book this holiday season

1. The Cartoon Elephant book, after being temporarily unavailable through Amazon, is now back on the market. The retail price is $26.95, but sometimes Amazon will let it go for a bit less. 2. Cartoon Elephants approach painful emotions with humor. … Continue reading

When two different concepts can both be true: A tip for handling and understanding your emotions

Two different concepts that often come up for handling emotions might at first appear contradictory: 1)   In order to handle emotions effectively, a person has to be able to step back and notice what they feel (observe). 2)   In order … Continue reading

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On being “right”: Demystifying the “stiff and rigid” cartoon person from The Emotional Extremist’s Guide to Handling Cartoon elephants.

Sometimes being “right” has to do with maintaining a sense of justification, power, or virtue. Sometimes being “right” has to do with feeling valued or heard, or even finding others to support your point of view. Sometimes it has to … Continue reading

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Elephants on YouTube

Click here to watch a short (3 min) video about the cartoon elephant book. 

Cartoon elephants (emotions!) up close and personal: When you don’t like what you see

Sometimes, if you look closely at what actually feel, you won’t like what’s there. Sometimes it’s just too much. Here are some tips on what to do when you get up close and personal with your elephant, and this may … Continue reading

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The cartoon elephants are here!

Click here for The Emotional Extremist’s Guide to Handling Cartoon Elephants: How to solve elephantine emotional problems without getting run over, chased, flattened, squished, or abandoned by your true cartoons. Here is a sneak preview of the book chapters: Part … Continue reading

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Third wave behavior therapies, functions of behavior, depression, and dead conversations

Have you ever had a conversation with someone that you really cared about that ended up with them saying something like: “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t deserve that.” “I’m not worth it.” As a recipient of this conversation, you … Continue reading

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