Tag Archives: Misery
← Older postsLoneliness and the New Year
Loneliness may have to do with a feeling as if something is missing. A loss of connection, a loss of relationship, a loss of well-being, or a loss of what could or should have been. New Years Eve may bring … Continue reading
6 quick tips on mindfully navigating the holidays when you aren’t “feeling” it
Notice what you feel without judging. Sometimes people believe that if they don’t feel a certain way, they are missing out on some kind of grand, spiritual, or wonderful experience. I am reminded of the Charlie Brown Christmas special in … Continue reading
Is your anxiety helping or hurting you?
1) Figure out the benefit(s) of your anxiety. Anxiety is beneficial when it activates us to solve problems or gets us moving on a task or activity. Our anxiety may be the push we need to speak up or speak … Continue reading
What acceptance means in the face of loss
Acceptance is considered to be a critical component to being able to cope adaptively. People who are able to accept what is (or what has already happened) are generally able to move more fluidly through life. They have less problems … Continue reading
Are you running the Boston marathon today?
Since this is the day of the Boston marathon, I thought I would write a blog post about running. Running! Some people spend their lives running. Running is a way of getting away from something. It’s a matter of … Continue reading
Should you change your behavior or change your beliefs? A closer look at self-compassion.
Social psychology research indicates that it is easier to change behavior than it is to change attitudes or beliefs. Part of what characterizes third wave behavior therapies (such as DBT) is behavioral activation. In other words, there is a focus … Continue reading
10 ways of getting through a crisis:
Remember what matters- Connect with those you care about. Bring to mind, relive, remember, and cherish the connections you have and what your current relationships mean to you. Look for meaning in the current situation. See if there are any … Continue reading
Boston traffic and jammed T stops: How to practice willingness
Often, when we don’t want something to be the way it is, we fight our way through it. We complain loudly, we tense up, we try to do it quickly in order to get it over with, or we avoid … Continue reading
Are the people around you giving off too much negative emotional energy?
If someone is ranting and raving, throwing stuff about, yelling loudly, talking in an accusatory fashion, complaining loudly, or noisily expressing a great deal of rage- it can be just plain difficult to be around them. Emotionally sensitive people- the … Continue reading
Are clients with Borderline Personality Disorder too needy? Follow up thoughts from attending the NEA BPD conference.
This past week I attended a conference hosted by the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder. Dr. Alan Fruzetti presented on Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Dr. Anothony Bateman presented on Mentalization Based Treatment (an alternative treatment for BPD). Then … Continue reading